The best checklist for your Mother of the Bride duties can be found here!
No matter whether you are the Mother of the Bride or the Bride wanting a list of duties for Mom; consider these sections:
One thing to remember though, talk to each other!
Keeping an accurate schedule will keep the Wedding on track. Assigning tasks to individuals, will share the workload and identify those tasks for the Mother of the Bride duties.
With the Bride and Groom's lists in front of you now, consider if you would like assistance with any of them. For instance:
Make sure that both the Bride and Groom are happy with the involvement; then check that Mom is happy to be that involved. It isn't for everyone...
I remember listing out all the 'jobs', looking at my diary, circling our intended date, and thinking "oh my!". Picking up the phone to Mum, was one of my biggest comforts, her advice invaluable, her support - priceless
As the big day draws near as Mother of the bride, no doubt you'll be considering a number of things, which is where we can help...
Have you been given a list of jobs to do or assist with on the wedding of your child?
Perhaps you'd like to be of help, but you haven't yet been approached?
Talk to the Bride and Groom. Offer your help, guidance and support, if it is required - try not to be offended if it isn't needed.
Have you given any thought, to the following mother of the bride duties:
Your Mother of the Bride duties don't just end there of course, there are other duties that you'll have before the day, as well as those on the day itself.
Having taken on board what you will be wearing and some of the things you'll do, there are also these to consider:
There may well be other things that the Bride and Groom will seek your assistance on. Just knowing your there to help, can be a great comfort.
The big day has arrived. You may well have been host to your daughter the night before her wedding, your duties start...
The remainder of the Reception may well be free for you to enjoy with your friends and relatives.
Your Daughter and Son-In-Law may well have requested further assistance from you; for instance over-seeing the cutting and distribution of the cake!
You like many others, may well rely on your Mom. Remember that your Mom is a wonderful lady, but not necessarily Wonder Woman! Ask for her help and assistance, tell her about your Wedding plans; others will expect her to know!
For all those researching their Mother of the Bride duties, remember to talk to the Bride and Groom. Tell them what you can offer in ways of support. This can be a stressful journey for your daughter, but being the exception mother of the bride that you are; you'll take it all in your stride.
I look back at my own Wedding Day with delight, of course. But the element of sadness tinges these memories, as my own Mum died just after our first Wedding Anniversary.
To this day, looking back at the photo's can bring an over-whelming flood of emotion. I take joy in the fact that the day went well, she looked fabulous, and what seemed to be an extravagance on photography and videography, now provides me with comfort.
I can no longer hug my Mum, or ask her advice, but at times hearing her voice is priceless, and timeless.
Time has meandered on and though my Mum met my daughter, she never met my son. At least for them, they will be able to see their Grandma, looking her best, and being herself; as on that day, she really shone.